Women Who Hate Compliments

Written by Rivka

Yesterday, a man said to me: "Sorry I said anything. I know women hate compliments about the way they look." In general, he isn't wrong, but why is that?

If you don't like a man telling you you're beautiful, your radar may be off. You think: He says this to every woman, he's just trying to get laid, he's manipulating me. You think everything except: It's true.
Now, sometimes you're being manipulated, but sometimes you're not. Everyone knows the difference if they're feeling centered. If you look in a man's eyes and can't tell whether he means it or not, you are off center, out of your own confidence.

It's important because it's a warning sign: self esteem, self love, sense of deserving appreciation. It can trigger a lot of very ugly dominoes that waste your time: jealousy, bitterness, crankiness, fatigue, incompetence.

Try this: Next time, try to clear your own energy right before you're going to go on a date. Start with your own eyes. I know this sounds weird-it's because it is ?- but if you start with your own eyes, try to experience their color, their beauty, their ability to shine. Then go inward, deeper, through your whole body and just try to be with yourself without comparison to anyone else. Pretend you're the only woman on the planet. When you have meditated long enough that you can see yourself without comparison to anyone else, you're ready for your date.

Then when he says something, look into his eyes and be open. You'll know. And if you're the only woman on the planet, you'll have power in your knowing. You can't expect anyone else in the world to appreciate your value if you don't see it yourself.